Live Comedy

James Barr: Sorry I Hurt Your Son (Said My Ex to My Mum)

Multi-award-winning comedian, podcaster (A Gay And A NonGay), radio presenter (The Hits Radio Breakfast Show), TV host - and gay icon! - James Barr is delighted to be taking his fearless, critically acclaimed stand-up show Sorry I Hurt Your Son (Said My Ex to My Mum) on a UK tour - fresh from successful runs at Edinburgh and Adelaide Fringe festivals.

At the heart of this hour is a four-year relationship that left James questioning everything. His ex's final words to his mother, written in a Christmas card - "Sorry I hurt your son" - became the title of a show that lays bare the complexities of queer domestic abuse, and makes you laugh while doing it.

Choosing to tell his story in a performance that is both funny and bittersweet, James takes the audience on an emotional rollercoaster offering a refreshingly bold take on the impact of abuse and the chaos that follows in an hour of poignant stand-up comedy.

For James, laughter has always been a powerful weapon against life's harshest blows. With a clever mixing of tension and release, James's experience of the cycle of abuse permeates the show, mirroring James' lived experience and ultimate triumph.

By speaking out about his experiences, James hopes to give voice for the one in five adults who experience domestic abuse in the UK in their lifetimes. This statistic is even higher for LGBTQ+ people, with reported domestic abuse rates one-third higher for Lesbian and Gay Individuals: 6% in the last year, compared to 4.5% for heterosexuals (Office for National Statistics 2025).

Sorry I Hurt Your Son (Said My Ex to My Mum) is a boundary-pushing stand against abuse, a call for awareness, and a boldly funny uplifting show of resilience - voiced with sharp, self-aware humour to break the silence that abuse so often brings.

April 2025

25th & 26th - The Lantern, BRIGHTON

May 2025

2nd - The Alma, BRISTOL
10th - 53two, MANCHESTER
11th - Pyramid, LEEDS
16th - Arts Theatre Studio, NOTTINGHAM
24th - Barbican Theatre, PLYMOUTH
30th - Front Room Theatre, WESTON-SUPER-MARE

June 2025

7th - Truck Theatre, HULL

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