Quote: TheBlueNun @ 6th October 2015, 10:19 PM BSTYou make some poignant points. I have always found throughout my life that 'fitting in' seemed the most important element. Society tends to cast out the misfits somewhat and as you correctly state, 'that's where madness lies'. I guess that deciding to step away from the norm is quite empowering to many.
Thanks for your reply. I appreciate it. After your words "to many", I guess add "if you can" as people have to work and survive. I worked for 27 years. I could write a book. I am not a relationship person. I have had them - briefly - and they didn't work. That's disappointing but I live inside my head. I have had loads of friends, many close. Close as in 30 plus years. People say "why if he is that sociable - almost too sociable - isn't he involved in relationships?". I was an only child. People then say "oh that is why - only child - but then why is he so naturally sociable? - it's strange". I got a degree at a Top Six university. God knows how but I did. So they say "he should be professionally ambitious - why is he laughing with people and going to music festivals all the time?" Well, sorry, but that is how it was although it isn't any longer as I'm now in a different situation with elderly parents next door. But it's been like this all the way through. I'm just thankful for mates/family.
Of course, people also asked if he seems so laid back, why is he so anxious and dropping out of work with problems? Which one is the fraud? Neither - genuinely neither - but there are disappointments regarding what didn't happen and that can be idealised. I'm told it's not always great. I was involved with a Japanese woman from Folkestone along those lines. It would have helped not to have been regarded as totally normal and a bit strange, the latter not because of how I am in demeanour but for what I've not complied with as they see it.