Tend to agree with Ruby on this one! However we have two houses and no 'Will' made, thinking this is important as we're not married.
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Wills. Yep very important especially if you're not married/civilly partnered. Go and get it sorted because the intestacy rules tend to do things very differently to how most people would like to actually sort their stuff out. With two properties as well, you might need to do a spot of tax planning to reduce capital gains if you're in England.
Go and see a solicitor Dellas as most people with property do have larger estates/assets than they initially think.
I know, but hate the thought of 'who dies' etc, esp after serious illness and stuff.
Back to the original question - some people get married for religious reasons. I don't think that's been mentioned yet.
It will be my 30th Wedding Anniversary this year.
Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 6:04 PM GMTAside from being brainwashed from day one that you can only find fulfilment / social acceptance if you're married. Do you have other reasons for tying the knot? How does it differ from just living with someone forever?
I am genuinely interested and will put aside my normal ascerbic wit for honest answers.
I want to get married because I want to share the same name as my husband, and form a strong partnership and a stable family. I appreciate that there are parents who don't get married and have stable and strong partnerships, but for me, this is important.
Plus my Granny would kill me if I had children before getting married.
Quote: EllieJP @ January 13 2012, 9:56 AM GMTI want to get married because I want to share the same name as my husband, and form a strong partnership and a stable family.
Quote: EllieJP @ January 13 2012, 9:56 AM GMTI want to get married because I want to share the same name as my husband,
Nigel?
Quote: EllieJP @ January 13 2012, 9:56 AM GMTI want to get married because I want to share the same name as my husband, and form a strong partnership and a stable family. I appreciate that there are parents who don't get married and have stable and strong partnerships, but for me, this is important.
Plus my Granny would kill me if I had children before getting married.
What and my your kids orphans as well as bastards?
What a horrid person!
Quote: EllieJP @ January 13 2012, 9:56 AM GMTI want to get married because I want to share the same name as my husband, and form a strong partnership and a stable family. I appreciate that there are parents who don't get married and have stable and strong partnerships, but for me, this is important.
Plus my Granny would kill me if I had children before getting married.
I couldn't have put it better myself. I think that's lovely. One of my Grans came to my wedding and saw my son, her first grandchild, shortly before she died. I'd have married whether she came or not, but it is a very special memory for me.
Quote: EllieJP @ January 13 2012, 9:56 AM GMTI want to get married because I want to share the same name as my husband
Bernard or Malcolm JP just wouldn't have the same ring to it.
keep your own name, like a lezzer would.
Quote: Kenneth @ January 13 2012, 3:57 AM GMTSome people get married because they want to have kids.
Can you not have them if you're not married?
Quote: ShirleyMcFurley @ January 13 2012, 12:50 AM GMTCan I come to the wedding. I love oirish people.
I have an Irish Catholic background, but was born in Hackney, so I consider myself to be British.
As for coming to the wedding, most you lot can't even make it to a BCG Drink Up. I left this forum for two years but was still able to go to the last meeting.
Quote: EllieJP @ January 13 2012, 9:56 AM GMTPlus my Granny would kill me if I had children before getting married.
Mum not Granny in my case, but exactly the same moral guidelines.
Quote: Kenneth @ January 13 2012, 3:57 AM GMTLet me know if you need help in finding Miss Right.
Thanks for the offer Kenneth.
Persoanlly if I found someone who I loved and respected etc and felt it was mutual, I wouldn't be bothered if we were married or not. To me I don't think signing a bit of paper and wearing would make me feel more stable or love someone more.
As for if you commit because you meet the right person or it's the right time in your life, I think it can be a bit of both.
At the end of the day the only thing that matters is that you love and respect each other and share the same level of commitment. Whether you choose to get married, "just" live together or have an open relationship, as long as you are happy that is the most important thing.
Yes, I totally agree that the main thing that matters is that you love and respect each other... but having a marriage makes it harder for them to leave. 
you meet
you play it cool
She's a bit coy
you pretend to look up to her
she feels really warm and secure she's eating out of your hand 
she falls in love with you
you on the outside but 
on the inside 
she wants to get married
f**k me, you think
you tell her you are not ready
it breaks her heart
you try and console her (for about 5 minutes)
before shagging her best mate