First date advice

Friends. Some help, please.

Last night I asked a girl out. For the first time. Ever.

It's a girl I work with, so I see her most days of the week. It was our Christmas drinks, and I thought, "She's single, I'm single, we get along great. Why not ask?". So I asked her if she'd like to go out for a drink some time, she said yes and we swapped numbers.

But, as I said, that was the first time I ever asked anyone out. Never been on a date before. We're due to be working together on Wednesday - having taken her number, would it be alright to leave it until then to talk to her or should I text her before then?

And then there's the date itself. Where should we go? Pub/bar? Dinner? Coffee? I hadn't even thought that far ahead when I asked her.

This may all sound pathetic, but I really would appreciate some words of wisdom from you more experienced guys. Please. Be kind.

Thanks.

Um, seeing as it's the weekend. Why not send a short text asking her to go for a drink tomorrow?

As for the location, depends what you like. A few drinks would be less pressured. You can always arrange to meet for real date if you "click". Or even be spontaneous and suggest food whilst you're out. Although I don't know where you are/how busy it will be.

I would say just out for a drink first. If possible make it somewhere you can both walk to, which takes the pressure off her as she will know that she can leave when she wants without having to rely on you for a lift home.

A meal would be more of a second date thing in my opinion, and definitely do not go to the cinema. If you're trying to get to know someone you can't do that whilst sitting in silence for two hours.

Good luck!

If she's a bit of a talker, the cinema may not seem so bad after all.

Aw, you're too cute!
If you like her, text her today. That's the brilliant thing about texts, so casual yet so effective. Just say summit like 'nice to see you last night, hope you got home okay, let me know when's good for you if you still fancy that drink sometime'

Yeah - AJGO has the right idea. A very casul but friendly text, with a smiley face at the end.

I'd go to a coffee shop or similar.

Quote: TopBanana @ December 10 2011, 5:46 PM GMT

Yeah - AJGO has the right idea. A very casul but friendly text, with a smiley face at the end.

I'd go to a coffee shop or similar.

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Tea shop?

Quote: AJGO @ December 10 2011, 5:30 PM GMT

Aw, you're too cute! 'nice to see you last night, hope you got home okay, let me know when's good for you if you still fancy that drink sometime'

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Tuesday?

Why not?

My advice would be don't do anything static where you are sat in front of one another for the whole duration. Maybe Christmas shopping together, walking around the shops? Or wrap up warm and go to a driving range, seems a bit odd being cold but it would probably fun.

Quote: Oldrocker @ December 10 2011, 5:51 PM GMT

Tuesday?

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I shouldn't fret too much, most women aren't happy unless their moaning and will just try and raise the bar if you indulge them too much.

Just take her to a pub with a back door near the toilet. You can make a quick escape if she's yacks on too much.

I'd suggest it may be wiser to take the advice of the non bitter and twisted people. Just a thought.

I'd suggest it would be wiser just to ask HER.

Nah, that's way too simple.