Quote: JoLaw @ May 18 2011, 10:39 PM BSTI'm not offended, don't worry.
Yeah, I think it would have been more traumatic at the time. But the long term effects on your everyday relationships wouldn't be as damaging.
My best friend is a man, but 10 years ago that would have been inconceivable.
You can dehumanise a stranger, but when it's somebody that you wouldn't have predicted, it makes you doubt your own judgement.
That said, he was an arsehole which I knew, I was going through the arbitory 'bad boy' phase. I just didn't think he was THAT much of an arsehole.
I'm sorry to hear about your bad experience, there's certainly plenty of horrible guys out there, just as there's plenty of horrble women. Not all guys are like that though by any means, which I guess you know if your best friend's a man. It sounds like you've got pretty good instincts though, if you knew he was an arsehole beforehand, I think it's understandable you didn't realise how big an arsehole under the circumstances.
I remember hearing about an old woman who was raped, and she'd seen on CSI or something a woman scratching the attackers face, which left his DNA under her finger nails, which the old woman did to help secure a conviction. Putting up as much of a fight as possible would certainly help to get a conviction, if you reported straight away etc, though it'd maybe make things worse in some ways.
If you don't mind me asking, what would you have wanted to see happen to that guy?
Quote: zooo @ May 18 2011, 11:02 PM BSTIt proves, yet again, that Japan is mental.
That's true, I remember seeing a picture of a big sign in Japan that said 'Anal F**k'... Though then again, you don't know what the sign was for, it might not have been as random as it seems, though I like the idea they had no idea how rude it is.
