My condolences, Def. When I've lost family members, I've always found reflecting upon the good times to help a great deal. I can only imagine how hard it is and my thoughts are with you and your family.
You could read some sketches in critique to cheer you up. On second thoughts 
All the best, Def. 
Def,
I can totally relate to what you're going through. Four weeks ago I had an operation on my back, exactly one week after my father-in-law passed away. I didn't make the funeral.
Talking about it has helped, we had a family gathering yesterday and it was therapeutic to laugh and have a little cry.
Time is a great healer, and things will get easier.
Good luck and take care.
Terribly sorry to hear Def and wishing you the best.
Maybe a little lite writing may help give you something else to focus on?
Oh Def. 
So sorry to hear that.
I'm sorry to hear your news Def. All the best.
Def, I am so sorry for your loss. Can't begin to put myself in your shoes, but I hope you can find your own way through it. Love x
My condolences Def.
My Mom died two weeks ago so I know how you feel. The funeral is not until Friday. Just in that limbo period at the moment.
But if someone offered me 94 now I'd take it !
Take care Ode Pal and remember,'It Will Pass'.
Sorry to hear of your loss mate.
Very sorry to hear about your loss, I feel for you in what is a shocking time and know there will be so many things going through your mind. I lost my mum when I was 22 and my dad 3 years ago, so know something of what you may be going through.God Bless
Very sorry to hear that Def, and Oldrocker.
It might seem weird to post about it on here but as you've already seen on this thread the BCG is a very friendly and caring place. All the best to you and your family.
Sorry to hear that. I was "lucky" in a way that my dad just literally dropped dead a few years ago so - as far as we know - there was no suffering. However I didn't get to say goodbye. It's those left behind - like my mum - that you feel most for.
Condolences to OldRocker as well.
Have a good celebration of their life at the funeral
Sorry for your loss Oldrocker and hope you can take some comfort from the memories you have
Just adding my condolences to Def and Old Rocker.
I think you can tell a good family by the way they pull together during the hard times. The BCG is a good family (even the nutty half-brothers like Sootyj).