A lot of people are aware of what happen on the things that you like but shouldn't thread. That thread is close and while I don't really want to reopen it, I want to just say something about the boards and maybe explain myself.
Aaron has mention in closing the thread I was patronising. That was never my intention, I am sorry if it looked that way. My intention was to do the right thing and stop a friend from making a big mistake and alienating herself and the people who care about her. I can be a cheeky so and so from time to time but I have always tried to be a nice person here and a good friend to anyone who needs it (and sometimes it means telling someone they may not want to hear even when do don't want to) and I have found over the years I have been on here that despite trying to do the best thing and be nice and happy, it can make me a target. That I do accept.
I know what it is like to be bullied in real life and I would never bully anyone else intentionally. As far as this site is concerned, when I first came here, I am sorry to say this Aaron but you especially went out of you way to be as cruel and as harsh towards me as possible when I started on here even after others had PMed you asking you to lay off me. I felt so upset at some posts, it drove me to tears but I stayed because many people here are nice. Although, I will say now in Aarons' defence, he has treated me very well since those times, has apologised for past actions, and I have noticed this and thank him for this.
This site has been over run recently with people saying terrible things to each other and in turn, people get wound up and say terrible things back and that's how these things get out of control. This I feel has lead to a lot of the paranoia that goes on here about cliques and trolls and I know a lot of people feel that no one is doing anything about it but I can see the difficulty the mods have.
I could turn around and say, "I have had enough and I am leaving this site forever blah blah blah....", but what is the point? I'd only be caving into the selfish need some people have for ruining this place and lashing out at strangers online.
Regarding Dolly, some of you may feel that she was in the wrong. Some on you may feel I should have stepped away and not said what I said. Whatever has happened between me and Dolly let's keep it between me and Dolly and we will deal with it whatever the outcome is. But it's an example of how a few thoughtless words can blow the community feeling in this site apart.
I know I have the thread rep of being the hippy "Let's all love each other" sickening lovey dovey on fence person (when Slag A isn't doing it)and many of you hate it when I do so. I am not asking anyone to love each other here. No one is perfect. Look at what I just did, blowing up on a public forum at someone! But you can try and not follow my example there and remember at the end of the day that behind every avatar you see is a real person and that person has the right to believe what they want, that includes EVERYONE, and those people have feelings. It's easy to forget and say things when you are online and not in person. Also if you see a nasty post, ignore it. That person doesn't know you.
I thank everyone for being nice and understanding and I humblely apologise to anyone I shocked. I'm sure this will now be full of interesting replies and be closed but I wanted to take the time and say something before everything gets more out of hand and more people hurt for no reason.
Thank you X.
PS If I get banned for this, it's been nice knowing you all and good luck X
