Quote: Darren Pomroy @ June 18 2009, 2:16 PM BSTI mean get your mate to knock you up and then ruin him.
Trust me, some of them even do it to their boyfriends/partners/husbands. 
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Quote: chipolata @ June 18 2009, 2:25 PM BSTWhy do I bother!
I didn't know you did, dear. (copyright F.Towers)
Quote: Tim Walker @ June 18 2009, 2:26 PM BSTI mean get your mate to knock you up and then ruin him.
Trust me, some of them even do it to their boyfriends/partners/husbands. [/quote]
Mental.
Quote: chipolata @ June 18 2009, 2:25 PM BSTWhy do I bother!
We all wonder why you bother.
Quote: chipolata @ June 18 2009, 2:25 PM BSTWhy do I bother!
No offence Chip but I didn't want to cloud my immediate impression for the first post with other people's comments. That's not to say I don't listen to anyone and can't be swayed but this is an emotive subject and just wanted to say it as I saw it.
She could goto a dodgy club and put rohypnol in her own drink kinda like pot luck.
Quote: Darren Pomroy @ June 18 2009, 10:14 AM BSTI am seeking some advice from you fine people as I am in a bit of a pickle.
I have a friend who is desperate for a baby but can't have them. She hasn't even got a man to have one with even if she could. We got talking the other day and she mentioned that she really wnated a baby and I said messing about 'Il give you one'. Now we wouldn't have sex or anything I could never do that to my girlfriend it would be just a simple donation.
Now we laughed it off as madness at the time but she emailed me yesterday asking whether I would consider it. She would even pay me a decent amount of money. I do not plan on ever having children so I am thinking yes, I could do this. I reckon I am strong enough to keep emotion out of it and so forth. I haven't told my girlfriend about this either as I am not sure how she will react. What I need to know:
Is this really a good idea?
Is it even legal?
How would you react as a girlfriend? Should I tell her if I do it?Anything else you can think of would be much appreciated.
In this circumstance, in my opinion, no. The reasons are.
A) Your girlfriend, no matter what she says to your face, will NEVER be 100% comfortable you have fathered someone elses child and it could affect you both as a couple.
B) The fact that you friend is that deperate to have a child without support and she is still young (I am assuming) could be a sign that it's more about have something that loves her rather than creating a life, in which case it's not in your best interest. Children are not all cute outfits, feeding ducks, and drawings of mummy. They are a lot of money, 24 hour care, chicken pox, throwing up, finding a good school, keeping them safe, finding money for nappies, etc.
C) Could you honestly say that if she had the child and moved or married, you could take such a step back from your own son or daughter?
C'mon hun. Think about it.
The best thing to do for her is to encourage her to get some help with her self confidence. It's a lot cheaper and will be what she REALLY needs.
Advise her to marry a nice rich man and adopt a kid.
But a Sperm donation via the appropriate channels is actually a good thing.
This idea bad.
Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ June 18 2009, 2:34 PM BSTCould you honestly say that if she had the child and moved or married, you could take such a step back from your own son or daughter?
I actually do, that is the bit I was least worried about.
Quote: bigfella @ June 18 2009, 2:53 PM BSTBut a Sperm donation via the appropriate channels is actually a good thing.
Yeah, but not everyone can find the openings.
Seriously hun, it sound like she could basically do with someone to talk to. At least she should start asking herself why she feels she needs one so badly like that first before doing something like that. It might pay to have a long chat with her and listen.
Quote: Tim Walker @ June 18 2009, 2:58 PM BSTYeah, but not everyone can find the openings.
Oh you twist my meaning!
There is also the thing of them turning up on your doorstep in 18 years times wanting answers and a relationship. It happens all the times and you never know where you may be after 18 years.
Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ June 18 2009, 3:04 PM BSTThere is also the thing of them turning up on your doorstep in 18 years times wanting answers and a relationship. It happens all the times and you never know where you may be after 18 years.
Roobs, who'd want to have a relationship with one of their parents? That's just 
. Oh wait, you're from Dorset/Devon, aren't you...? 