Rooface
Wednesday 27th May 2009 8:46pm [Edited]
11,156 posts
This is so tricky. I think in the case of childhood obesity, the focus should be on the parents but not in a "You are abusing your child way". When a parent overfeeds their child, a lot of the time it's to do with an internal issue. The most common reason is they see it as a way of showing love. They may have issues with showing affection and use food instead, or they were raised themselves in a difficult home and used food themselves as comfort so when the kids are going through it, they give them food to "help" too. Children look up a lot more to parent than they realise so when they see a parent claiming a bad knee as an excuse not to do an actvity or piling on the junk, they will copy, not realising that the parent is doing it because they lack confidence.
I am torn on this. I was a fat kid so I know what it's like to be a child with a weight issue. My parents made some pretty awful mistakes when it came my diet and looking back, there was stuff they could have actually done to stop it but at the same time, I can understand the conflict that goes on in a parents head of "If I don't give them this, I am a bad parent".
Saying that, I never got to a point of being in a hospital. I had the chance to lose it all before it got that far. There was a case in America where a man weighing 40 stone died in a clinic and the doctors soon found out afterwards that his wife had been sneaking in fast food meals everyday. In no way was she right to do this and she'll have to live with the pain of knowing she played a big part in his death but I also feel bad for her because for her to do that to her own husband, she must have been put under some terrible pressure. True feeders though, the ones that do it for the thrill, are different and need urgent psychological help before they kill people.
I think the NHS fit 4 life campaign is really good in showing parents things they can do to help their child but when it comes to treating an overweight child, the parents need to be treated too.