Help with relationship advice

Tuesday 18th November 2008 5:04pm [Edited]

546 posts

Sorry to change the subject from comedy, but I really need some help.

I met this girl, we got on really well, went out a few times and I thought we had a really good time, although she was a bit hot & cold, especially over text.

I asked her out on our 4th date last week, I planned to take her for dinner and cinema, she said she would let me know by texting me at the weekend (not a good sign I know). She didn't bother to text me. I saw her today (at work) and she said 'Oh I didn't feel like doing anything on sunday, I felt so ill'. I just said 'Dont worry about it'. My thinking was that she could have at least let me know as thats the decent thing to do.

My question to you now is how do I act around her now?? She's obviously not interested and I don't want her to think that I'm gonna stand for being messed around etc. I've lost a bit of interest because I'm a bit disappointed in her.

Sorry for changing the tone people.

L.E.

Tuesday 18th November 2008 5:08pm

20,476 posts

You should have read General General last night when everyone was helping me with my relationship. (We're okay now btw everyone, he called).

You need to be friendly, but totally act nonchalent about the whole thing. Say hi, ask how she is, but be really airy about it, as if you're not really interested. She'll be gutted and if she is interested she'll come back to you. If not, you've tken the higher ground.

Afinkawan

Tuesday 18th November 2008 5:09pm

Huddersfield

2,302 posts

If she's not interested and you're not interested any more, just go back to treating her as a colleague. Yes she should have let you know but no point making a big deal of it if it's not going anywhere.

Rooface

Tuesday 18th November 2008 5:11pm [Edited]

11,156 posts

Awwww poor you.

From a girls point of view, it is possible (but less likely) she may have been ill but just thoughtless. My strongest advice is give her a couple of weeks to get back to you. If she is really interested, she won't last long without wanting to call. Don't give her the cold shoulder completely. Be nice but just don't chase. If she doesn't contact you at all, it wasn't meant to be and you are far better off .

It's nice to answer a problem from someone who isn't a teenage girl! Laughing out loud

David Bussell

Tuesday 18th November 2008 5:22pm

London

9,943 posts

I'd go with Afinkawan's advice. Also, kill a hooker. Always cheers me up.

Nigel Kelly

Tuesday 18th November 2008 5:36pm

3,792 posts

Quote: David Bussell @ November 18 2008, 12:22 PM GMT
Also, kill a hooker. Always cheers me up.

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Whether you want to shag a hooker first then kill her or kill a hooker first then shag her is totally up to you Mike. Have you an HGV licence by the way?

john lucas 101

Tuesday 18th November 2008 5:45pm

7,098 posts

Ignore the prick-teasing piece of shit. That'll learn her.

Mike Dan-Carter

Tuesday 18th November 2008 5:46pm

546 posts

Strange thing is she seemed so nice, but over the last week I've just become really disappointed in her.