I rarely rarely smoke it. Like once a year.
At my wits end with my son though. Just had a blazing row with him.
I am not one for spoiling anyones fun but it seems to be the done thing with teenagers these days. In a way I am lucky it is not harder stuff. I have a few friends who have that to contend with.
What is it with teenagers today?
A bottle of cider, some undderage sex & a pack of 10 fags used to be enough for me.
Don't forget the polo mints.
I knew alot of people who smoked pretty much non-stop through Uni. Only ever heard of one guy going completely mental.
It is not him going mental I am worried about. It's that it may turn to something harder. I will get government funding if he turns not very well. However if he becomes a serious druggie & turns to crime to fund his habit, he will get housing & move out. Then all I am left with is my husband to control. I simply can not cope with that!
Oh & 
to the polo mints.
How old is the boy? 'Cos there's a difference if he's 16 and finding his feet and 13 where he's still wet behind the ears. You don't have to answer that as it does infringe on personal stuff.
Quote: Charley @ February 6, 2008, 12:08 AMIt is not him going mental I am worried about. It's that it may turn to something harder.
I thought that's what you liked.
Quote: roscoff @ February 6, 2008, 12:10 AMHow old is the boy? 'Cos there's a difference if he's 16 and finding his feet and 13 where he's still wet behind the ears. You don't have to answer that as it does infringe on personal stuff.
18. A mere baby!
You could start smoking yourself, telling him he's rolling it wrong, telling his friends to not let him bogart the joint.
Or just sneak a piece of liver covered in blood next to hum next time he passes out, convince he coughed up a lung, maybe you can get him to eat it raw!
I used to be a rather shabby youth worker, for a very short period of time.
Quote: Charley @ February 6, 2008, 12:17 AM18. A mere baby!
And what had you achieved at 18?
Quote: Charley @ February 6, 2008, 12:08 AMIt's that it may turn to something harder. I
I really don't buy that argument, tbh Charley.
I think if they're going to do harder stuff it's a mixture of the friends they hang around with and there own will to say sod off or, as it were, to crumble.
You could say the same about drinking - drinking is a drug, people do it to alter their state of mind. They could just as easily seek a new or harder form of innebriation(sp) from drinking.
I smoked so much dope at uni but I never once felt the need to go to a 'higher' level. I had plenty of opportunities to try it but really didn't want to.
If it was my kid I would simply concentrate on making sure they had the strength and resolve to say no and forget entirely about the issue of whether they were smoking weed or not.
Quote: Charley @ February 6, 2008, 12:04 AMI rarely rarely smoke it. Like once a year.
At my wits end with my son though. Just had a blazing row with him.
I am not one for spoiling anyones fun but it seems to be the done thing with teenagers these days. In a way I am lucky it is not harder stuff. I have a few friends who have that to contend with.
What is it with teenagers today?
A bottle of cider, some undderage sex & a pack of 10 fags used to be enough for me.
Maybe he needed it to escape the reality of living with you.
I think you're better off sitting down and sharing a joint and discussing life the universe and everything. 'Cos otherwise you're gonna come over as uber mother and he's going to find that rebel inside that's just waiting to get out. You are after all dealing with a fellow adult. And yes Iknow mum's never allow their kids to go beyond 12.
Quote: David Chapman @ February 6, 2008, 12:18 AMAnd what had you achieved at 18?
Two children for a start. The dirty bitch.
Quote: Charley @ February 6, 2008, 12:04 AMWhat is it with teenagers today?
A bottle of cider, some undderage sex & a pack of 10 fags used to be enough for me.
That was the 1950s, yea?
Anything you forbid or resist becomes a thousand times more desirable to the human being. The teenager was smoking grass because he enjoyed it. It was pleasing in a way that alcohol or heroin or cocaine is NOT. It temporarily breaks up cycles of depressive thought. It helps him loosen up; hate himself less; hate life less; hate YOU less.
It does not make him feel like shoplifting or carjacking or mugging anyone. It probably makes him wanna eat stuff and play video games or play music or be creative or have a good hitting-the-ceiling wankfest.
You people with kids: (Not necessarily you, Charley.)
Holy f**k, you really do forget what it was like to be a teenager, eh? How did you want to be treated when you were his age? And just because you weren't treated the way you wanted, should you continue the cycle for another generation?
And you treat them like extensions of yourselves. Your vanity and sense of self worth is wrapped up in what the kid chooses and how he behaves and what grades he gets and yadda, yadda, yadda. You think they are here to live what you wish best for them, but they are here for themselves.
Let them make the mistakes that you want to protect them from so they don't make them in spite of your efforts.
Be the non judgemental person full of love and understanding they can come to when they feel in trouble rather than the person they feel impelled to hide from because you are the person they are in trouble with.
Quote: roscoff @ February 6, 2008, 12:30 AMI think you're better off sitting down and sharing a joint and discussing life the universe and everything. 'Cos otherwise you're gonna come over as uber mother and he's going to find that rebel inside that's just waiting to get out. You are after all dealing with a fellow adult. And yes Iknow mum's never allow their kids to go beyond 12.
my sons are still 5 & 8 to me. Not 18 & 21.
Quote: David Chapman @ February 6, 2008, 12:29 AMMaybe he needed it to escape the reality of living with you.
He lurrrrrrrrrrrrrrves me. I shall post a piece he wrote at school on me when he was 9. It is well, sort of complimentary.
I have no problems with Jack smoking the odd weed. He used to do it on a friday night. Recently he has upped it to 3 times a week. That is my problem.
Jack is alsoa different kettle of fish to his brother. If it was Ky I would'nt worry so much. Jack still needs to have parental control. He is the kid most likely too.....If you know what I mean.
I had a really good time getting high when I was younger. I loved the way it made me see faces talking to me in my wallpaper, and made me laugh hysterically in a high-pitched voice for about half an hour, after hearing a knock-knock joke. I smoked weed regularly for about 3 years, then, when I suddenly stopped hanging around with the lads who usually supplied the weed, I just stopped smoking.
Of course, long-term use of weed can cause problems, like memory-loss and paranoia. Anyone who claims it doesn't is either lying, or just hasn't smoked much.