Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop @ January 12 2012, 6:19 PM GMTI think it's more important to find some who will love you, never cheat, worships your physical form whatever shape, and knows all your deepest flaws and loves you anyway. You don't need a ring for that.
I would add trust and respect to that list and also that these things need to be mutual in order to work.
For me getting married was confirmation of that, showing commitment and having a feeling of belonging to one another.
Quote: zooo @ January 12 2012, 9:41 PM GMTAnd a picture of you and your panda wife?
I believe in marriage...would I do it again? yes, (not to the same person mind)
Quote: zooo @ January 12 2012, 9:41 PM GMTAnd a picture of you and your panda wife?
You wound me
How could I marry someone who made kiddy porn?
What kind of man do you think I am?
Awwww!
Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 6:12 PM GMTBelieve it or not, I don't use this kind of language when I go a courting. I'm normally very polite and quite charming in real life.
I've had relationships where the 'M' word came up but ran a mile, as I wasn't ready for that kind of committment at the time. Now that I've reached a certain age, it is expectant upon me to settle down.
I think you've answered your own question here.
Sorry if someone else has already said this but I wasn't committed enough, to this thread, to read it all.
Quote: rwayne @ January 12 2012, 10:03 PM GMTI think you've answered your own question here.
Sorry if someone else has already said this but I wasn't committed enough, to this thread, to read it all.
Um, my question was - why do people still get married? 
Though based on the slightly negative bent I used to phrase the question, as if I was being stalked by a dark horse, I can see why you might come to this conclusion.
Thanks again for the additional replies. This being nice and respectful to other BCG Members is starting to get on my tits, so I will revert back to type by writing nasty things on other posts.
I've been married 38 years ( waits for everybody to fall down in shock), and haven't regretted it so far. You find a soul-mate ( whom you sometimes want to kill) and though the ceremony thing may be a bit prehistoric, it's a kind of spiritual pledge to each other - a formalising. I was married in a church because I was a believer in those days. If it were now, I'd fancy a pagan ceremony but I'd still want a ceremony. As for all this crap about huge cost! I'd have eloped if we'd had to have a big do. There were us, best man and wife, bridesmaid and bloke (who 'gave me away') and our 2 widowed mothers. I defy anybody to say it was any less of a celebration than a huge do full of relatives you have to invite but hate.
Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 10:36 PM GMTUm, my question was - why do people still get married?
Though based on the slightly negative bent I used to phrase the question, as if I was being stalked by a dark horse, I can see why you might come to this conclusion.
Thanks again for the additional replies. This being nice and respectful to other BCG Members is starting to get on my tits, so I will revert back to type by writing nasty things on other posts.
Go on - write a nasty thing (prepares to snigger)
Quote: keewik @ January 12 2012, 10:41 PM GMTGo on - write a nasty thing (prepares to snigger)
Quote: keewik @ January 12 2012, 10:41 PM GMTI've been married 38 years ( waits for everybody to fall down in shock
I fell down in shock that a Scot has been alive for 38 years. 
Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 6:12 PM GMTBelieve it or not, I don't use language when I go a courting.
Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 10:53 PM GMTI fell down in shock that a Scot has been alive for 38 years.
Snigger!
Quote: keewik @ January 12 2012, 11:22 PM GMTSnigger!
Racist.
Can I come to the wedding. I love oirish people.
I'll most likely become a mad old spinster. I have plans. I shall have false teeth and drop them into peoples drinks and use them to create patterns on the crusts of pies. I shall dye my hair blue, knit terrible jumpers with three arms and send dirty pictures of myself to Daytime TV doctors.
I never get romance anymore. Just requests to get out the twins and the odd drunken lunge where I leap out of the way so they hit the wall. 
Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 5:22 PM GMTWith the high rate of divorce, people co-habitating freely and most importantly, not having to blow £20,000 on some tart so she can play dress up princess for the day, my question is - why do people still get married?
Some people get married because they want to have kids. And because they believe that a man and woman can live together for the rest of their lives without getting on each other's nerves. Mutual respect is the key. Let me know if you need help in finding Miss Right.
Quote: KLRiley @ January 12 2012, 7:56 PM GMTWomen look for Mr Right.
Too often they are looking to change him into Mr Right. Whilst doing that, they can get bored with the result, or resentful that he won't change the way he damn well should.