Marriage

After we so calmly and intelligently dealt with such topics as religion, racism and anonymity. I'd like to ask the members of the BCG for their views on marriage.

Personally, I've never been married but as the years begin to advance and my lapsed Irish Catholic upbringing dictates, I will presumably tie the knot in the next few years.

With the high rate of divorce, people co-habitating freely and most importantly, not having to blow £20,000 on some tart so she can play dress up princess for the day, my question is - why do people still get married?

You could become a monk. I know a couple they have a grand old time, praying, meditating, kicking a football around when they have a free minute.

I guess we get married because no one truly wants to be alone. And without an other half, you do end up lonely.

Quote: sootyj @ January 12 2012, 5:24 PM GMT

I guess we get married because no one truly wants to be alone. And without an other half, you do end up lonely.

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So marriage is an old age suicide pact?

In some ways.

I really want to get married some day.

Howz about it then?

I've got a ring somewhere and you can have a shelf in the fridge.
I don't own a microwave.

Quote: EllieJP @ January 12 2012, 5:37 PM GMT

I really want to get married some day.

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Aside from being brainwashed from day one that you can only find fulfilment / social acceptance if you're married. Do you have other reasons for tying the knot? How does it differ from just living with someone forever?

I am genuinely interested and will put aside my normal ascerbic wit for honest answers.

Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 5:22 PM GMT

on some tart so she can play dress up princess for the day

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I think we at least know why you may not be finding someone to marry you...

It's not something I worry about to be honest. A piece of paper may make it easier as far as benefits are concerned but it doesn't insure life long happiness and now it's so much more accepted to live with your partner and have children without a wedding beforehand, it's not a big deal. If I was with some who didn't believe in getting wed, that is fine, if they do, fine too.

The one thing that does bug me about weddings is the hideous expensive and behaviour from people who see it as a chance to show off to friends and family rather than focusing on the fact two people are committing to each other. That's why if I do bother with marriage, the terms are it's in Vegas and not in front of a ton of people and wearing something poofey.

Couldn't resist...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sbqv3MwwVd8

Quote: zooo @ January 12 2012, 6:06 PM GMT

I think we at least know why you may not be finding someone to marry you...

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Believe it or not, I don't use this kind of language when I go a courting. I'm normally very polite and quite charming in real life.

I've had relationships where the 'M' word came up but ran a mile, as I wasn't ready for that kind of committment at the time. Now that I've reached a certain age, it is expectant upon me to settle down.

Getting married is a piece of piss !

I should know, I've done it three times !

You can easily have a nice wedding for £1,000 or even less. Although there's nothing wrong with spending £20k or more if you want to and have it to spare.

I never wanted to get married at all, and then I kind of came around to the idea, but I doubt I ever will. I'm not the type.

Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 6:12 PM GMT

Now that I've reached a certain age, it is expectant upon me to settle down.

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That doe meen marrid tho' Ode Pal.

Quote: Renegade Carpark @ January 12 2012, 6:12 PM GMT

Believe it or not, I don't use this kind of language when I go a courting. I'm normally very polite and quite charming in real life.

I've had relationships where the 'M' word came up but ran a mile, but I wasn't ready for that kind of committment at the time. Now that I've reached a certain age, it is expectant upon me to settle down.

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But doesn't it depend upon finding the right person, rather than it being the right time? If you get what I mean.
Otherwise you'd end up marrying whoever happens to be around at the time, in an 'oh, she'll do' way. Which doesn't exactly sound like the sort of thing that would last.