Quote: EllieJP @ December 14 2011, 12:34 PM GMTI have my three month review tomorrow. Shall say things then.
At least you shouldn't have to wait long to get things sorted. Just make sure you say everthin you wnt to get off your chest tomorrow.
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That's so touching and sad Ellie. I felt a little stab of pain for you.
Grasp the nettle at your review - or you might regret not.
Quote: reds @ December 14 2011, 11:25 AM GMTDespite the fact that there are 21 people living in my unit block, there is only two of us who ever bother to put the bins out on bin night. It is recyling week as well so tonight I have dragged all ten bins out by myself, up a slope. The bins are always full so they seem to understand the purpose of them. I can't believe that 19 adults all seem to think the bin men come and drag the bin up to the road for you.
How many meters long is the slope? Consider it good exercise. Is there not a tenants/owners' association with a monthly meeting to raise the issue of bins? Do you not have a unique bin with your unit number on it? Are the rest of the tenants Chinese?
Quote: EllieJP @ December 14 2011, 12:20 PM GMTSlowly being made to feel super crap at work. I walked into the job confident and an extrovert - and now I feel worthless and hardly speak.
Most jobs tend to be drudge. Some managers dislike cheerful extroverts. I've never liked the idea of being part of a "team" in the workplace. Sure, a happy workplace is a good workplace, so look elsewhere if your superiors are dullards.
Sorry to hear about your woes, Ellie. Maybe you need a radical career change? What's your dream job?
Quote: Kenneth @ December 14 2011, 12:58 PM GMTMost jobs tend to be drudge. Some managers dislike cheerful extroverts.
To be fair, a lot of cheerful extroverts are annoying c**ts.
Quote: Kenneth @ December 14 2011, 12:58 PM GMTHow many meters long is the slope? Consider it good exercise. Is there not a tenants/owners' association with a monthly meeting to raise the issue of bins? Do you not have a unique bin with your unit number on it? Are the rest of the tenants Chinese?
It's not that long but it's an odd angle slope. There's no monthly meetings, I could write to the real estate. They might send a letter around but I doubt it would do anything, considering there is already a notice up about which night the bins need to go out. Sadly there isn't enough room for everyone to have their own bin.
Quote: chipolata @ December 14 2011, 1:05 PM GMTTo be fair, a lot of cheerful extroverts are annoying c**ts.
No problem if the cheerful extroverts are professional and work fast, without disturbing/distracting others. Big difference between a pleasant professional and a dipshit chatterbox.
Quote: reds @ December 14 2011, 1:14 PM GMTIt's not that long but it's an odd angle slope. There's no monthly meetings, I could write to the real estate. They might send a letter around but I doubt it would do anything, considering there is already a notice up about which night the bins need to go out. Sadly there isn't enough room for everyone to have their own bin.
Stop taking the bins out and see how other residents respond. Or door-knock one evening and tell everyone to put out a bin once a fortnight. Or type up a simple bin-duty roster spreadsheet and put it under everyone's door. Easy. I recently had hassles with my Chinese neighbours leaving bags of rubbish in the corridors and outside the lifts, so I door-knocked and asked everyone to stop living like pigs and take their rubbish to the trash room. I reported the worst offender to building management. Result: No more shit in the corridors.
Quote: Stephen Goodlad @ December 14 2011, 12:51 PM GMTThat's so touching and sad Ellie. I felt a little stab of pain for you.
Grasp the nettle at your review - or you might regret not.
The issue is - I'm working for my dream company... So it's rather annoying and upsetting.
Quote: reds @ December 14 2011, 1:14 PM GMTIt's not that long but it's an odd angle slope. There's no monthly meetings, I could write to the real estate. They might send a letter around but I doubt it would do anything, considering there is already a notice up about which night the bins need to go out. Sadly there isn't enough room for everyone to have their own bin.
Super polite note saying you've been putting all the bins out cos binmen won't take them otherwise but you've hurt your back and so would very much appreciate the lazy f**kers pulling their weight
Quote: EllieJP @ December 14 2011, 1:27 PM GMTThe issue is - I'm working for my dream company... So it's rather annoying and upsetting.
That's horrible. Like meeting a hero and finding out they're an idiot. Is it one manager or the whole structure?
In my experience any shared living set up becomes a war of attrition, with those who give being hopelessly exploited.
In one flatshare I took on the cable and loo roll buying chores. And the struggle to get people to contribute £3 a month soured me.
Some one trying to dodge paying, or paying with coppers. Then going out on an expensive night out really pissed me off. I've been in a few flatshares where everyone has chipped in like clock work.
But frankly all too rare. And usually it's the more working class who pay their share and the richer types who just put their feet down about not paying.
Quote: EllieJP @ December 14 2011, 12:20 PM GMTSlowly being made to feel super crap at work. I walked into the job confident and an extrovert - and now I feel worthless and hardly speak.
Works like that and if it was all fun they wouldn't need to pay you.
Get in the habit of knowing you do a good job and appreciating yourself.
That or sending yourself threatening notes and demanding an investigation that destroys the entire infrastructure of the organisation.
Quote: EllieJP @ December 14 2011, 12:30 PM GMTMy team are quite different to what I'm used to. I work hard - but don't get feedback. So you feel in Limbo.
I don't know what your job involves but is there a way you can ask for feedback without making them think you don't know what you're doing?
*I'm not trying to say you are bad at your job- just that in some jobs asking for opinions/feedback could be inturpreted as "help! I don't know what im doing"
Christmas works parties. I'd rather stay home and watch telly.
Quote: EllieJP @ December 14 2011, 1:27 PM GMTThe issue is - I'm working for my dream company... So it's rather annoying and upsetting.
All my years of Obsessive Ellie Watching tells me there's a pattern here. Whenever you get something you want - job, man, etc - there's a brief honeymoon period before doubt, disappointment and disillusionment set in. With regards to this current work situation you need to believe in yourself more and try not to rely on other peoples approval and feedback so much.
I'm pissed off that I don't know if I'm legitimately pissed off or full of lady hormones. DAMN, YOU OVARIES! DAMN YOU TO HECK!
Quote: Nat Wicks @ December 14 2011, 2:53 PM GMTI'm pissed off that I don't know if I'm legitimately pissed off or full of lady hormones. DAMN, YOU OVARIES! DAMN YOU TO HECK!
Still counts. Don't know why people dismiss emotions as 'pre-menstrual' or whatever when it's almost a quarter of your life.
Yes but I'm not used to lady hormones really as I've been on the implant for years, so not really had menstural mood swings! I've started noticing them after I changed to a different implant.
Good old implant. How long ago did you switch?