Quote: zooo @ December 13 2011, 10:29 PM GMTAll I did was joke that he sounded like a catch, though, I didn't suggest he be permanently shunned or put in prison.
True, true, I got the impression you were slightly, and only slightly, unimpressed with the comment, but fair enough. I guess you already knew all internet women were into that stuff.
Yep! The internet's all about arseholes.
Or if it isn't it should be.
TB, just show her your avatar ( that's not a euphemism) and she'll love you -it's such a cuddly bear.
Seriously, don't you think she's probably, right now, having the same thoughts as you?
Quote: keewik @ December 13 2011, 11:45 PM GMTTB, just show her your avatar ( that's not a euphemism) and she'll love you -it's such a cuddly bear.
Seriously, don't you think she's probably, right now, having the same thoughts as you?
Possibly.
It's just the thought of sitting there face-to-face and maybe not having anything to say.
I used to work with a guy who I'd never met - i.e. we had to be in regular email contact. He was fecking hilarious in his emails, yet when we met he hardly said anything and was as quiet as a mouse.
Quote: TopBanana @ December 14 2011, 10:14 AM GMTPossibly.
It's just the thought of sitting there face-to-face and maybe not having anything to say.
She'll most likely want you to listen to her anyway. The only things you'll need to say are "that's interesting", "oh I know" and "tell me more". Throw in a few compliments about her hair and that's it, you can arrange to meet again.
OK...email has been sent suggesting a meet in Cafe Nero in Redditch.
LET'S GET THIS MUTHA ON THE ROAD.
Eurgh. Either people are giving some purposefully bad advice, or we have a load of people who are destined to be alone.
Just relax. You'll find that most people are essentially the same as their online personas (though generally more polite IRL). With meeting people IRL from the net, you've given yourself a headstart because you already know what they are like. There will of course be some awkwardness when you first meet, but just be lighthearted about it. Having a giggle will make it all a lot easier.
In terms of conversation, start off with topics you know you are both interested in (god bless Facebook). Don't assume that women just want to be listened to, and make her do all of the work. A good golden rule if you're worried about conversation is try to ask as many questions as you give answers. That way neither of you will feel uncomfortable when conversation is dominated by one or the other.
Don't worry about fibs you might have told- everyone overeggs a cake from time to time. Just be honest before little white lies get out of hand.
Thanks, Nat.
I just need a bit of a push - your advice has reassured me a fair bit.
Awesomes.
I met Dan on the internet, and we're still going strong nearly five years later 
Maybe think of a few emergency questions you could ask if there's an awkward silence, just things like 'I meant to ask you... did you get round to seeing that film/how's your *family member* doing' etc. Anything she's mentioned in past that you can bring up to show you were paying attention. Not that you're being tested, just helps if you're anxious to have a nice passing conversation idea
That's a good one!
Quote: TopBanana @ December 14 2011, 10:14 AM GMTIt's just the thought of sitting there face-to-face and maybe not having anything to say.
Could you please post a photo of your friend? I am having trouble imagining why you could be speechless.
Quote: Nat Wicks @ December 14 2011, 10:44 AM GMTEurgh. Either people are giving some purposefully bad advice, or we have a load of people who are destined to be alone.
In most cases, a bit from column A, a bit from column B.
Quote: TopBanana @ December 14 2011, 10:36 AM GMTLET'S GET THIS MUTHA ON THE ROAD.
Now this is precisely the sort of thing you should not be saying. Although, let's be honest, there are some women who do like it "caveman style". Don't shave your chest hair.