10th Wedding Anniversary - how to celebrate? Page 3

Quote: zooo @ September 17 2009, 4:43 PM BST

That is true of course, but I suppose almost everything we do is arbitrary if you go too far into it.

I do care about anniversaries, but I also care about Christmas and birthdays, and they're totally arbitrary too.

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But making too much of it - whether it be anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas - can all too easily be a millstone around your neck. After a certain point you no longer want to celebrate birthdays because it means you're edging closer to death. Christmas, because you're supposed to be having masses of fun, becomes a dagger to your heart. And anniversaries remind you of how long you've been with a person you've comer to hate, but stay with because you're scared of being alone.

Oh lordy.

Quote: zooo @ September 17 2009, 4:43 PM BST

That is true of course, but I suppose almost everything we do is arbitrary if you go too far into it.

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I feel rather depressed now.

Haha. Embrace the arbitrary! It is our friend.

Embrace chip too, I think he needs a cuddle...

Quote: zooo @ September 17 2009, 4:51 PM BST

Embrace chip too, I think he needs a cuddle...

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Come near me, though - I'll cut you! I'll cut you good!!!

Quote: chipolata @ September 17 2009, 4:52 PM BST

Come near me, though - I'll cut you! I'll cut you good!!!

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Right, I'm off! Might not be in tomorrow, so have a good meet up, everyone.

Quote: chipolata @ September 17 2009, 4:48 PM BST

But making too much of it - whether it be anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas - can all too easily be a millstone around your neck.

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Too true. The actual meaning of the celebration goes out the window. Obviously, I'm not one to generalise the lady folk...

...but, they do put an unrealistic level of expectation on these annual events and when it doesn't come out exactly perfect, they lose it big time. Even before the big days, you can sense the stress levels beginning to go.

'Calm down love, calm down! It's only a f**king turkey!'

'That's easy for you to f**king say, you're not the one who has to feed eleven f**king people including your mother! Once, just once, I'd like to have a decent normal Christmas...(becomes a high pitched noise after that for about four mintues).

'Right I'm off down the pub.'

'Don't come back!'

Merry Christmas.

The 10th Anniversary is the TIN anniversary! Clearly, though a tin of beans isn't romantic. You could get her a metal frame with a pic of you and the kids in it! Or you could get her some jewellery made from Cornish tin. That tends to be traditional!

But seeing as it's tomorrow, stick with the can of beans.

I know! As it's the tin anniversary, cook her a romantic meal of spaghetti hoops!

She doesn't like beans. Bang goes that idea!

Out of interest I wanted to see how well we were doing as couple in terms of divorce-avoidance.

== 2003 divorces in England and Wales by duration of marriage ==

Total number of 2003 divorces: 153,490

Duration 0-2 years: 10,316
3 years: 8,288
4 years: 8,907
5 years: 8,983
5-9 years: 40,599
10-14 years: 29,831
15-19 years: 20,923
20-24 years: 15,028
25-29 years: 9,662
30 years and over: 9,934

Median duration: 11.3 years

Source: Office for National Statistics http://www.statistics.gov.uk/STATBASE/xsdataset.asp?vlnk=7078&More=Y

Isn't it interesting that half the divorces come between 5 and 15 years of marriage (and we're slap bang in the middle). It's them pesky kids I tell ya - and I would've got away with it too...

I'm over the worst bit then. Still waited 12 years to have kids...

Seriously if you're skint, she might just appreciate a nice letter or poem (that you've written of course), as long as it's sincere (and not written in block capitals).

Quote: Dolly Dagger @ September 17 2009, 5:57 PM BST

I'm over the worst bit then. Still waited 12 years to have kids...

Seriously if you're skint, she might just appreciate a nice letter or poem (that you've written of course), as long as it's sincere (and not written in block capitals).

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...and no dirty limericks. They don't tend to go over well.

That said, I have a line you can start with:

There once was a man from Sandusky...

Your relationships sound awesome, Renegade...

I didn't know you could argue with anything inflatable....

Love you really RC. Not in a sex way.

Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ September 17 2009, 6:01 PM BST

Love you really RC. Not in a sex way.

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Glad to hear it, you've just saved yourself a whole bucket of disappointment and dry cleaning bills.

Quote: zooo @ September 17 2009, 5:59 PM BST

Your relationships sound awesome, Renegade...

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That's what happens when you're dumb and shallow like me and put looks ahead of personality.