Status report Page 747

Quote: EllieJP @ June 10 2009, 3:55 PM BST

I mainly have guy mates, he's quiet around them. He says he just likes letting me carry on, I want him to join in. I am most certainly not quiet around his mates... not really that loud but I make sure I'm sociable and talk to people. I would find someone who came along and didn't talk to anyone rude, so I guess I avoid being branded with the same thing.

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I too have to force myself around new people. I am very shy and awkward and turn red easy. Meeting guys friends is scary for me, especially after a very bad experience thanks to the evil Jerkface, it's a lot harder. But try just doing is slowly with fewer people and you will find he feels a bit more easy.

Quote: EllieJP @ June 10 2009, 3:57 PM BST

What I want him to do, and what I make him do are completely separate. I would never ever try and make him do something he doesn't want to do, doesn't make me any happier. I just avoid him while we're out because he is not the fun, smart guy I love. He's the rude, boring guy in the corner.

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Is this the way you've been feeling for awhile or is it only recently that it's come to a head like this?

Quote: EllieJP @ June 10 2009, 3:57 PM BST

I mainly have guy mates, he's quiet around them. He says he just likes letting me carry on, I want him to join in. I am most certainly not quiet around his mates... not really that loud but I make sure I'm sociable and talk to people. I would find someone who came along and didn't talk to anyone rude, so I guess I avoid being branded with the same thing.

Heres to 10 months of trying just that!

What I want him to do, and what I make him do are completely separate. I would never ever try and make him do something he doesn't want to do, doesn't make me any happier. I just avoid him while we're out because he is not the fun, smart guy I love. He's the rude, boring guy in the corner.

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Awwwwww hun. Poor you...

Quote: EllieJP @ June 10 2009, 2:44 PM BST

It only really becomes apparent in social situations, as I am relatively quiet when it's just us two. I find his quietness quite rude and feel others feel the same, so get frustrated. I feel he finds how loud I am obnoxious.

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Deary me.

Sounds a bit like my relationship.

My girlfriend was chatty and sociable, and I was quiet and insular and I kept holding her back. (in my view)

We broke up four weeks ago.

Quote: Seefacts @ June 10 2009, 4:01 PM BST

Deary me.

Sounds a bit like my relationship.

My girlfriend was chatty and sociable, and I was quiet and insular and I kept holding her back. (in my view)

We broke up four weeks ago.

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OH SEEFACTS! You poor thing.

Where is Elliot the hug whore when you need him?

Quote: Seefacts @ June 10 2009, 4:01 PM BST

I kept holding her back. (in my view)

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He says that...

Quote: Aaron @ June 10 2009, 3:45 PM BST

Commented that he's quiet, or commented that he's rude?

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I hate that quietness or not wanting to be social is considered rude.

I often think talking to quite a lot of people is a tremendous waste of time. As most people are terribly boring.

Ellie, what's the fella's take on his 'quietness'. Shy, or can't be arsed?

Quote: Seefacts @ June 10 2009, 4:01 PM BST

Deary me.

Sounds a bit like my relationship.

My girlfriend was chatty and sociable, and I was quiet and insular and I kept holding her back. (in my view)

We broke up four weeks ago.

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That's rubbish Seefacts.

Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ June 10 2009, 3:59 PM BST

I too have to force myself around new people. I am very shy and awkward and turn red easy. Meeting guys friends is scary for me, especially after a very bad experience thanks to the evil Jerkface, it's a lot harder. But try just doing is slowly with fewer people and you will find he feels a bit more easy.

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I appreciate he finds it difficult, but he's quiet around my friends who he's met so many times. It's so frustrating, and I try to understand, but it's hard when I find things like that so easy.

Quote: EllieJP @ June 10 2009, 4:03 PM BST

He says that...

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That he holds you back?

Well, respect his honesty there. My ex-gf wouldn't admit it, but I kept telling her there was more out there than having to be saddled with me.

Some people don't like to talk, it's the way it is sadly.

Just storing up for the rest of the thread......

Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ June 10 2009, 4:02 PM BST

OH SEEFACTS! You poor thing.

Where is Elliot the hug whore when you need him?

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Thanks, I'm okay though!

Quote: Seefacts @ June 10 2009, 4:03 PM BST

Ellie, what's the fella's take on his 'quietness'. Shy, or can't be arsed?

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He says it's just that he wants to say the right thing, and that the time passes before he could have said it.

He worries so much about saying the wrong thing it makes arguments impossible.

Quote: Rob H @ June 10 2009, 3:59 PM BST

Is this the way you've been feeling for awhile or is it only recently that it's come to a head like this?

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A while.

Quote: Seefacts @ June 10 2009, 4:05 PM BST

That he holds you back?

Well, respect his honesty there. My ex-gf wouldn't admit it, but I kept telling her there was more out there than having to be saddled with me.

Some people don't like to talk, it's the way it is sadly.

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I wish people would allow me not to talk sometimes.

Quote: EllieJP @ June 10 2009, 4:04 PM BST

I appreciate he finds it difficult, but he's quiet around my friends who he's met so many times. It's so frustrating, and I try to understand, but it's hard when I find things like that so easy.

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Yeah, but why does he do it?

I find a lot of people not worth my time, maybe he feels the same?