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Aw, ian!
If you do make an excuse, what kind might you make?
I think I would find it less awkward to just go on the date, but give off clear 'friend' signals, and then just not agree to another one, than to make an excuse to get out of this one.
Quote: Moonstone @ January 23 2009, 10:26 PM GMTI get ya I think, just say nothing type thing? Leave you to sort your own head out?
Not really ignore, just stay calm! In C.B.T, for example, the focus is not on making the sufferer believe that they really are beautiful and they are not as ugly as they think because it's still implainting the message that looks DO matter and can cause more harm than good. The focus is on teaching them to not give a damn what they look like and learning to cope in everyday situtions without worrying about it.
Quote: zooo @ January 23 2009, 10:29 PM GMTAw, ian!
If you do make an excuse, what kind might you make?
I haven't thought yet. Erm, cat's ill?
I think I would find it less awkward to just go on the date, but give off clear 'friend' signals, and then just not agree to another one, than to make an excuse to get out of this one.
I'd agree with that, but I do actually like her, see that's the problem. If I went, and we would be drinking by the way, that plan I think would crumble!
Ah. Goodness me, you are a complex gentleman. 
Quote: Moonstone @ January 23 2009, 10:32 PM GMTI haven't thought yet. Erm, cat's ill?
I'd agree with that, but I do actually like her, see that's the problem. If I went, and we would be drinking by the way, that plan I think would crumble!
How about just taking it really slow?
Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ January 23 2009, 10:32 PM GMTNot really ignore, just stay calm! In C.B.T, for example, the focus is not on making the sufferer believe that they really are beautiful and they are not as ugly as they think because it's still implainting the message that looks DO matter and can cause more harm than good. The focus is on teaching them to not give a damn what they look like and learning to cope in everyday situtions without worrying about it.
But doesn't it make any difference psychologically that if someone is with you and they clearly want to be with you then they obviously see something whether you do or not?
Quote: zooo @ January 23 2009, 10:33 PM GMTAh. Goodness me, you are a complex gentleman.
Weird? Yes I know 
Quote: Moonstone @ January 23 2009, 10:28 PM GMTIs he?
What you do with Ruby is your prerogative. *thumbs up*
Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ January 23 2009, 10:33 PM GMTHow about just taking it really slow?
Maybe, maybe.
But I would've anyway tbh. Well, would've 'planned' to!
Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ January 23 2009, 10:32 PM GMTNot really ignore, just stay calm! In C.B.T, for example, the focus is not on making the sufferer believe that they really are beautiful and they are not as ugly as they think because it's still implainting the message that looks DO matter and can cause more harm than good. The focus is on teaching them to not give a damn what they look like and learning to cope in everyday situtions without worrying about it.
Makes a lot of sense to me, actually.
You could just not drink!
Then you could take it slow.
Quote: Scatterbrained Floozy @ January 23 2009, 10:36 PM GMT*thumbs up*
Corrrr, you've got it all planned!
!!!
At home drinking a Stella and writing a paper. Muuuuch more relaxing than being at the Uni.
Quote: zooo @ January 23 2009, 10:37 PM GMTYou could just not drink!
Then you could take it slow.
But that was kind of the point of going out. Well, half of it anyway.
See I'm not a drinker at all so she's a bad influence already
I dunno. I think I'll not go tomorrow and just see what happens in the future.