If you get a couple of collegues to join in, you can have races.
I'm sorry, but more help needed with my situation Page 2
Quote: Aaron @ November 19 2008, 12:37 PM GMTMike: Just look at her with pity. Pity and contempt. Look down at her for behaving so rudely and immaturely. Don't let her get into you like that, because you're better than her, you've shown that in giving some thought to the situation. Every time you see her, snort to yourself contemptuously and remember how wimpish and pathetically she behaved.
good advice, thanks.
chances are she's embarassed and a bit thoughtless and perhaps even a bit guilty for being thoughtless. Just get one with it, it was only 3 dates, nothgin happened, nothing went disatrously wrong. If you're not compatible, you're not compatible - nobody's fault, no harm done.
Just carry on as normal. Either she'll apologise, she'll apologise and wonder why you didn't chase her for another date or she'll just be relieved that you aren't acting weird to her.
Either way, you have the moral high ground.
Quote: Aaron @ November 19 2008, 12:37 PM GMTMike: Just look at her with pity. Pity and contempt. Look down at her for behaving so rudely and immaturely. Don't let her get into you like that, because you're better than her, you've shown that in giving some thought to the situation. Every time you see her, snort to yourself contemptuously and remember how wimpish and pathetically she behaved.
You don't know this is how she behaved at all, you're viewing it through Mike's eyes. Maybe Mike got heavy on those dates. Maybe he made her feel really uncomfortable. For all we know she's currently logged onto an alternative comedy forum talking about how this guy pressured her when all she wanted was a good time, and now she feels really bad whenever she sees him.
Quote: chipolata @ November 19 2008, 12:54 PM GMTYou don't know this is how she behaved at all, you're viewing it through Mike's eyes.
That's the whole point!
Quote: chipolata @ November 19 2008, 12:54 PM GMTYou don't know this is how she behaved at all, you're viewing it through Mike's eyes. Maybe Mike got heavy on those dates. Maybe he made her feel really uncomfortable. For all we know she's currently logged onto an alternative comedy forum talking about how this guy pressured her when all she wanted was a good time, and now she feels really bad whenever she sees him.
Just for the record I didn't come on too strong on those dates, I kissed her on the cheek at the end of each date, other than that we didn't touch each other (apart from holding hands while skating). The things I said on the date weren't heavy, we just chatted and had a laugh, I expected there to be uncomfortable silences at times, but there never was, we just chatted and chatted. I thought I behaved very well on all dates.
How about viciously stabbing her to death?
Then you'll get more sex than you can handle work in prison.
Worked for me.
How old are you and how is she if you don;t mind me asking Mike?
There are some script writers on here after all, I am sure someone could craft you some good lines, if you don;t know what to say for best, to ask her and get her take on things!
Quote: Marc P @ November 19 2008, 1:31 PM GMTHow old are you and how is she if you don;t mind me asking Mike?
There are some script writers on here after all, I am sure someone could craft you some good lines, if you don;t know what to say for best, to ask her and get her take on things!
I'm 22, she's 20.
Quote: Mike Dan-Carter @ November 19 2008, 1:29 PM GMTJust for the record I didn't come on too strong on those dates, I kissed her on the cheek at the end of each date, other than that we didn't touch each other (apart from holding hands while skating). The things I said on the date weren't heavy, we just chatted and had a laugh, I expected there to be uncomfortable silences at times, but there never was, we just chatted and chatted. I thought I behaved very well on all dates.
It was Aaron who thought you might have come on to heavy. 
Quote: Afinkawan @ November 19 2008, 12:52 PM GMTchances are she's embarassed and a bit thoughtless and perhaps even a bit guilty for being thoughtless.
I get the impression she doesn't really care that much, maybe that's just me saying that to make myself feel worse. Basically apart from her saying yesterday that she was "ill" she hasn't mentioned it. She knows that I'm not being my usual self because neither is she.
It's hard though to just remain as I usually am when she didn't give me a second thought. I think to myself, why should I go out of my way to be extra nice?? I'll just act how I feel as the time!
Send her a text saying 'Are you going to be ill this Sunday... if not fancy a pork pie and a bag of nuts at the King's Head?'
I would say it's best to carry on going to work if you can, otherwise you may turn this into something bigger than it is. If you encounter her, be polite. You could even say something like "don't forget to let me know if you'd like to go out again." That clears the air without committing anyone to anything or being heavy.
Actually, it may be best not to mention it, just be polite and leave it at that.
Hire a prostitute to fawn all over you. She'll get jealous and come sniffing back. Problem solved.