I'm sorry, but more help needed with my situation

First of all, I'm very sorry for hassling about help and advice with my situation, I hope to get back to comedy very soon.

Basically not sure if you remember my situation yesterday, but I was rejected by this girl at work, we'd been out on a few dates, she basically turned me down for a fourth by not texting me to let me know about whether she wanted to go out on the 4th date or not, then made an excuse about being ill.

The thing is I've found today and parts of yesterday really quite tough. I don't work with her, we just work in the same building, plus I only work here for a couple of days a week. Although because of where her desk is situated in the building, I see her a few times a day.

This may sound quite silly to some of you, but because I've found the last two days quite tough, I didn't know whether to take some time off (as it's part time, a couple of days off would be a week off), but the problem is if I don't work I don't get paid and I need the money.

Has anybody any suggestions?? I think I've let my feelings grow too strong for this broad.

You could do but the fact is you will have to return and face her again. This is the issue with dating in work! It will be tough but it will get better. Ask yourself this. Why are you that concerned over someone who hasn't given you a second thought? Wouldn't it be better to meet someone who respected you than lose your self respect chasing after someone who seems to view you as an afterthought? Also by taking time off, you risk stiring up office gossip and you won't be there to deny anything! It's not the answer you want but you need to ride it out. Eventually the hurt will pass.

You really are keen on her, aren't you! Or maybe just keen on the idea of a girlfriend.

This is probably not much help but in a while you'll look back and won't believe you felt so strongly about this situation. You might wonder what on earth you were thinking and what you ever saw in her. And hopefully you'll be going out with someone much nicer and better than her, who is really into you too.

In the meantime go to work and get on with your life. It'll make the time go quicker and it will get easier with each day. Is there anything you can concentrate on to take your mind off her? Can you plan something nice to do? Meet up with some friends, or something?

Just bite the bullet and get on with it. The more you see her, the less difficult it becomes. And chances are she feels as awkward each time she sees you, as you do her.

I never agree with Chip. But yes. Go and speak to her. Good luck.

Quote: Dolly Dagger @ November 19 2008, 12:08 PM GMT

You really are keen on her, aren't you! Or maybe just keen on the idea of a girlfriend.

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Good point, deep down I think I know that's the case, but it's tough because she's the first girl I've actually properly liked in a couple of years. When you're in a situation like this it's hard to imagine meeting someone who will just be genuine and nice.

I think you're problem is you're looking for love, you're desperately willing this to be The One. Or at least A One. It's a cliche, but do other stuff, with other people, and the chances are you'll stumble upon love unexpectedly.

The problem is when you are getting towards desperate, people can spot it a mile off. It's like a sixth sense thing. You think you are playing it cool but the other persons spider senses are on fire. I think the trick is to learn how to enjoy your own company which is hard but once you can, you panic a lot less about being single. Then when love comes along, it's a bonus.

Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ November 19 2008, 12:05 PM GMT

Ask yourself this. Why are you that concerned over someone who hasn't given you a second thought?

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Great point.

There..... have a hug!

Quote: Marc P @ November 19 2008, 12:13 PM GMT

Go and speak to her.

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I don't think that that's what Chip was saying.

Contrary to the advice of orthopaedic surgeons the best thing to do after a fall is to climb back on the horse. The question is do you wish to tame this frisky mare or find a more comfortable ride. And no that is not what I meant by the metaphor. Goodness me some people!

Quote: Marc P @ November 19 2008, 12:32 PM GMT

Contrary to the advice of orthopaedic surgeons the best thing to do after a fall is to climb back on the horse. The question is do you wish to tame this frisky mare or find a more comfortable ride.

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Are you asking him you pop a saddle on her and ride her around the office?

Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ November 19 2008, 12:33 PM GMT

Are you asking him you pop a saddle on her and ride her around the office?

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Mike: Just look at her with pity. Pity and contempt. Look down at her for behaving so rudely and immaturely. Don't let her get into you like that, because you're better than her, you've shown that in giving some thought to the situation. Every time you see her, snort to yourself contemptuously and remember how wimpish and pathetically she behaved.

Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ November 19 2008, 12:33 PM GMT

Are you asking him you pop a saddle on her and ride her around the office?

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If he is, I want video footage.