Quote: Aaron @ November 18 2008, 1:57 PM GMTWhat's a "healthy romantic interest" though?
That's the bit before you start standing outside her house at 3 in the morning with a kipper in your trousers.
Quote: Dolly Dagger @ November 18 2008, 2:00 PM GMTMaybe that's why they don't last?
Yes, indeed.
Quote: john lucas 101 @ November 18 2008, 2:02 PM GMTThat's the bit before you start standing outside her house at 3 in the morning with a kipper in your trousers.
Quote: Mike Dan-Carter @ November 18 2008, 2:00 PM GMTI don't think this will happen, but in the unlikely event of it happening - If she asks me out again sometime - what shall I say??
I'd kinda wanna say something like 'well you couldn't even be bothered to text me last time to tell me you didn't want to go out, so it's gonna have to be a no from me'.
Would you want to go out with her again? If you do then say yes and keep it platonic.
But you sound still (understandably) pissed off that she didn't get back to you this weekend. Either let her know in a calm way that it was out of order and messed up your weekend or just avoid her.
Quote: Mike Dan-Carter @ November 18 2008, 2:00 PM GMTI don't think this will happen, but in the unlikely event of it happening - If she asks me out again sometime - what shall I say??
I'd kinda wanna say something like 'well you couldn't even be bothered to text me last time to tell me you didn't want to go out, so it's gonna have to be a no from me'.
Put her picture up Mike and we'll advise you accordingly. Not that in any way any of the posters on this forum are ever shallow.
I prefer it honestly when guys are just themselves. I hate games, I hate cheesey "hey baby" lines, just be normal around me! That's the way to do it! Be honest and I will respect that.
Quote: Mike Dan-Carter @ November 18 2008, 2:00 PM GMTI don't think this will happen, but in the unlikely event of it happening - If she asks me out again sometime - what shall I say??
I'd kinda wanna say something like 'well you couldn't even be bothered to text me last time to tell me you didn't want to go out, so it's gonna have to be a no from me'.
It's completely up to you, Mike. This kind of response means she's not interested. But is bottling out of saying so. You could either pretend it didn't happen & treat her politely, or refer to it and maybe get some bad blood going between you, or just walk away and give her the cold shoulder when she talks to you.
I would rather a guy was honest when he approached me and said something like "I am really nervous but can I buy you a drink, I would like to get to know you" than "Hey baby, want sex on the beach?".... yuk. I may still say no but I wouldn't forget how nice you were!
Quote: john lucas 101 @ November 18 2008, 1:57 PM GMTThis is probably true. How ironic, then, that in most 'proper' relationships, we seem to spend most of our time play acting/behaving in ways specifically designed to effect a response.
A lot of advice and self-help books give all this advice on pulling and attracting, which is quite frankly the easy bit. Most people seem to have a job making relationships last and these tactics are often contrary to this.
Quote: RubyMae - Glamourous Snowdrop at Large @ November 18 2008, 2:09 PM GMTI prefer it honestly when guys are just themselves. I hate games, I hate cheesey "hey baby" lines, just be normal around me! That's the way to do it! Be honest and I will respect that.
Well said, Ruby. I can't stand mind games either.
Thanks to everyone who helped today. I guess the general feeling is I should just forget it and carry on acting the way I'm acting. I think thats what I will do.
Quote: Bad dog @ November 18 2008, 2:15 PM GMTWell said, Ruby. I can't stand mind games either.
Yes, but people often only play games out of nervousness or insecurity or fear of rejection. The world of male-female relations is a daunting stress-filled place.
Quote: Mike Dan-Carter @ November 18 2008, 2:00 PM GMTI don't think this will happen, but in the unlikely event of it happening - If she asks me out again sometime - what shall I say??
I'd kinda wanna say something like 'well you couldn't even be bothered to text me last time to tell me you didn't want to go out, so it's gonna have to be a no from me'.
It's up to you. I would suggest whichever way, you need to be nice though as you have to work with her at the end of the day. If no, say "Look, I think you and I both know this isn't really going anywhere and while I have had a great time, I think it's best to leave it here while we are good friends", if yes "I would love to." and leave it at that.
Quote: Mike Dan-Carter @ November 18 2008, 2:17 PM GMTThanks to everyone who helped today. I guess the general feeling is I should just forget it and carry on acting the way I'm acting. I think thats what I will do.
Good lad. Now buy some exploitatively over-priced, slightly hard-core pornography and get on with your life. That's what the rest of us do. Isn't it? Erm...
Quote: chipolata @ November 18 2008, 2:17 PM GMTYes, but people often only play games out of nervousness or insecurity or fear of rejection. The world of male-female relations is a daunting stress-filled place.
Bless. They're just human interactions at the end of the day. Maybe, going by your choice of avatars, your fantasy and expectations of women are not going to be met in real life. 
Quote: john lucas 101 @ November 18 2008, 2:21 PM GMTGood lad. Now buy some exploitatively over-priced, slightly hard-core pornography and get on with your life. That's what the rest of us do. Isn't it? Erm...
I tend to go for youporn.com, but thats just me.