Old Lady Leg
Sunday 24th March 2019 11:33am
Complete and utter Kent
449 posts
Quote: Rood Eye @ 24th March 2019, 12:19 AM
Recently, I was reading a woman's profile that said: "I'm quite happy to pay for myself but the question is if we'd met in a more conventional fashion, would you really want me to?"
I haven't contacted her because my answer is "Yes, I bloody well would!" and I don't think that's the answer she'll be wanting to hear.
I think I might be better off with an asexual gay man.
Where's Kenneth Williams when you need him?
No, I don't think you should contact her, because YOU'RE not the right person for HER. Someone will be, though.
First of all...sit back and stop searching the entire universe for Miss Right. No dating profile in the world will tell you if that person is your perfect suitor. The person behind the profile might be someone you never thought you'd be happy with...but actually would. You will NEVER know that if you just skip through profiles and say...nah...nah...nah...all the time.
The best thing you can do is continue to frequent places you enjoy going to, especially if it's somewhere just round the corner...and start talking to/getting to know people who also frequent those places. Not specifically to find a mate, but to bring some extra colour to your life. Like-minded friends are amazing...but if you're just going to judge and discard them purely because of their appearance or lifestyle, you'll very likely miss out on having the best friends you could possibly have.
I think you have to accept that not everyone you grace with your presence will want a personal/sexual relationship with you...and it's not just YOUR decision to make about whether that happens or not. I'd stop telling people you haven't even met that you don't want to have sex with them, because (apart from it being a bit weird) there's every chance they've already decided they don't want sex with you anyway.
Just chill. Stroke the cat.