fopdoodle
Saturday 22nd April 2017 8:34pm
Edinburgh
623 posts
But you just need to either rise above it or ignore it.
There were plenty of things my ex did that I didn't want to put down to being typically male, but had to sometimes to justify it.
Being constantly tardy and making me wait for him downstairs for hours while he played guitar when we were supposed to be going out for lunch was just incredibly selfish, but he did seem incapable of finding things he'd misplaced when looking for them, as it invariably involved walking into a room and just standing there for a bit. He might walk over and lift something up before walking out again, but for 12 years the routine was the same . . . I'd just ask him what he'd lost, he'd tell me and I'd usually go straight to it - and to be fair, he probably expected me to find for him anyway which compounded this behaviour.
But he did some typically female things too, as I do some typically male things. He would spend far longer grooming himself than I ever did, and I became obsessed with lighting the fire. I became so good at arson that he let me do it as I had a knack with the positioning of the kindling, rolled up newspaper and coal in the hearth that made my fires take faster than his.
I'm also a bit handy at DIY. He wouldn't let me do that, but I'm enjoying getting better at it now as there isn't a bloke around to tell me they can do it better.
