This is my reaction to some posts on Facebook revering mothers. I know my mother loved me BUT she didn't know the real me. I presented to her as the person she wanted me to be but we actually had sod all in common. I get on well with my sons but I'd never imagine I know everything about them - that wouldn't be healthy in my opinion. Yet often I'm left thinking I'm an inferior being because I don't put my mother on a pedestal. DISCUSS.
If you put youre mother on a pedestal she,d fall off and youd get banned from the gallery.
Thanks for that. Maybe I'm not as weird as I thought.
I'm not sure many people have that realisation that your parents are people too?
My family were never what you would call affectionate. So I never do those love your mum things. Yes - I do what I can and spend time with her but she always said "I never wanted children but your dad always said he wanted two."
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Ouch!
I get on very well with my mum, but I would still never go on about how much we love each other, or God forbid, tell her that.
I am English, dammit. Demonstrative affection is disgusting.
They f**k you up your Mum and Dad, they do not mean to but they do.
Quote: zooo @ 17th January 2016, 11:27 PM GMTOuch!
I get on very well with my mum, but I would still never go on about how much we love each other, or God forbid, tell her that.
I am English, dammit. Demonstrative affection is disgusting.
I could write a whole book about the relationship with my mother (and probably will one day). What I'd really like her to do is accept the fact that she's almost certainly got Asperger Syndrome and deal with it. This would be infinitely preferable to making everyone's life around as miserable as posdible as a result.
(TBN then exits to imbibe a chill pill.)
I would have also loved to get to know my biological father who died when I was five. He was almost certainly an Aspie too. Thank you to both of my parents for passing the condition on to me, my elder brother and now, my only child.
Quote: keewik @ 17th January 2016, 8:40 PM GMTThis is my reaction to some posts on Facebook revering mothers. I know my mother loved me BUT she didn't know the real me. I presented to her as the person she wanted me to be but we actually had sod all in common. I get on well with my sons but I'd never imagine I know everything about them - that wouldn't be healthy in my opinion. Yet often I'm left thinking I'm an inferior being because I don't put my mother on a pedestal. DISCUSS.
You're not alone Keewik. I'd personally vomit if my son wrote cloying shite about me in the future.
Quote: sootyj @ 17th January 2016, 10:03 PM GMTIf you put youre mother on a pedestal she,d fall off and youd get banned from the gallery.
What about a pedestal mat?
Quote: Chappers @ 17th January 2016, 10:59 PM GMTMy family were never what you would call affectionate. So I never do those love your mum things. Yes - I do what I can and spend time with her but she always said "I never wanted children but your dad always said he wanted two."
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My mother blames her lack of career progression on the fact that she had to leave work after having my brother in the early 70s. The fact that she chose to join the civil service at 18 instead of going to university may have also influenced things. As for being a mature student - forget it!
Quote: keewik @ 17th January 2016, 8:40 PM GMTDISCUSS.
"Love thy mother" is an excellent cloak of respectability. The Krays, Shipley and Savil all promoted a fanatical adoration of their mothers. So Kiwi (the wise owl) makes a valid challenge to this practice.
Some mothers have no empathy and cannot give unconditional love. Some lose their maternal instinct to alcohol or other drugs. The Biblical notion of honour thy mother, is only valid if someone acts like a mother. Any hoo, you'd need a heavy duty Crain to put my mother on a pedestal (it's glandular). Despite her gigantean size, I'm not even convicted she exists.
Nobody is perfect, but my mother is the kindest person I've ever met. Even though she stands a bit under 5 feet in height, I'll always look up to her.
Quote: Nick Nockerty @ 18th January 2016, 6:17 PM GMT"Love thy mother" is an excellent cloak of respectability. The Krays, Shipley and Savil all promoted a fanatical adoration of their mothers. So Kiwi (the wise owl) makes a valid challenge to this practice.
Some mothers have no empathy and cannot give unconditional love. Some lose their maternal instinct to alcohol or other drugs. The Biblical notion of honour thy mother, is only valid if someone acts like a mother. Any hoo, you'd need a heavy duty Crain to put my mother on a pedestal (it's glandular). Despite her gigantean size, I'm not even convicted she exists.
My mother's a big bird too (obesity 'runs' in the family) so yes, a huge plinth supporting the aforementioned pedestal would be really useful.
Other uses of the term 'pedestal' - misheard as 'pedal stool' during an episode of 'The IT Crowd'. There was also the Jo Brand joke about 'blokes should just wring out the pedestal mat every time they're required to give a urine sample.'
Yeah, I know, that's sexist against men.
Quote: DaButt @ 18th January 2016, 6:31 PM GMTNobody is perfect, but my mother is the kindest person I've ever met.
This about sums it up for me aswell.