Jennie
Thursday 22nd May 2014 10:13pm [Edited]
2,767 posts
Quote: Renegade Carpark @ 22nd May 2014, 10:50 PM BST
We could ban relationships, marriage and people living together? I think recent studies have shown that men who commit domestic violence are the ones most likely to commit violent crimes. So basically, scum is scum and no amount of education is going to change that.
As for getting women to recognise the warning signs, anecdotally speaking, there have been thousands of parents, sisters, brothers, etc. who've tried to convince loved ones to get away from a violent partner.
I agree that it is easier to change the abusee than the abuser. The fact is, once someone is in a violent relationship, their boundaries and self worth have already been compromised to such an extent that the damage has already been done - they'd rather be abused than alone.
I remember once being in a relationship with someone who shouted at me in a way I didn't like. He did not hit me, didn't look like he would hit me. He didn't threaten me, nor was his language violent. But his shouting felt aggressive to me and for a split second I was scared. So I dumped him that very moment. Because I have been taught that no man should ever make me feel scared.
I cannot imagine being beaten and forgiving. I can't imagine feeling so low that I am prepared to be physically violated just to stay in a relationship. I cannot imagine picking my violent abusive partner over my children.
We need to get to people before the violence starts.
Quote: Renegade Carpark @ 22nd May 2014, 10:50 PM BST
I know from personal experience that trying to tell a woman she can't do something is an exercise in futility.
Can't say I'm shocked by that.