You look perfect for any kid's party.
P.S. The Times paywall is down! *reads all of The Times*
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Quote: Tuumble @ July 26 2013, 10:55 AM BSTCame in to the office today and thought my colleague looked absolutely stunning. She's getting married in a couple of weeks and looks so happy. Thing is, a couple of weeks ago on a team building day, she said she hates any man complimenting her because it makes her feel like they're 'checking her out'. I find that so sad - I just wanted to tell her she looked nice but if I did so I'm more likely to upset her than it give her a lift.
See I had the debate on facebook recently; the other day going to work I saw a truly stunning woman on the train, and whilst part of me wanted to say something (I mean I wasn't considering declaring my undying love, just maybe a 'Can I just say you look stunning.' then on my merry way to work.
), the other rather British part of me kept quiet scared of what re-action \ perception that would create.
All my female friends said I should've, but I am still not convinced anyone outside of George Clooney can get away with it without getting a 'guess what some nutter on the train said to me.'
What do the beautiful people of BCG think?
Impossible to say, as some women might feel embarrassed/creeped out by it, and some might feel really flattered. Also some men could manage to sound creepy saying it and some might say it adorably. So... that was no help. Soz.
But there is definitely a great difference between saying 'you look stunning' and 'nice tits, love'. No decent bloke would think of saying the latter.
Stunning is the wrong thing to say here.
You look really nice today is a less creepy thing to say.
But say it nonchalantly, as Danny says... just walk off. It stops any awkwardness.
Quote: L.E. @ July 26 2013, 11:18 AM BSTBut say it nonchalantly, as Danny says... just walk off. It stops any awkwardness.
I was going to say exactly that! If you do it drive-by style*, then it's obvious you're not trying to get anything back in return, or pull her, you're just giving her a compliment because it's true.
*not literally out the window of a car.
Can I just say that both of you look really nice today.
*casually walks away whistling*
Ha, smooth!
Quote: L.E. @ July 26 2013, 11:18 AM BSTStunning is the wrong thing to say here.
You look really nice today is a less creepy thing to say.
But say it nonchalantly, as Danny says... just walk off. It stops any awkwardness.
I would never have used the word 'stunning' but as I did think 'Wow!' when I saw her I felt I wanted to say something.
I'm clued up enough on her as a person to know I would need to choose my words carefully and 'you look nice' would be probably the most I could've got away with. That scarcely seemed adequate somehow.
I am cursed with a sarcastic sounding voice. So if I said 'you look nice' to someone they'd spend the next hour wondering what was wrong with them.
An office I go to 2/3 times a week has two women there.
I have to sign into the company there and I always pay them both compliments.
But it's done jokingly and they always laugh. I try to think of a new line each time I go.
They will say something like hello Stephen, are you OK. and then my new line of the day comes in - something like I'm all the better for seeing your two beautiful faces.
But once, I had something on my mind and forgot to compliment them and it wasn't until I was leaving the office that I realised there was a sort of atmosphere. I stopped and said sorry - and then gave them a new line on how nice they looked and how it had enriched my life by seeing them.
They laughed and the status quo was resumed. Phew.
Quote: zooo @ July 26 2013, 11:34 AM BSTI am cursed with a sarcastic sounding voice. So if I said 'you look nice' to someone they'd spend the next hour wondering what was wrong with them.
Yeah, don't say "You look nice" with a bitchy resting face.
Quote: Stephen Goodlad @ July 26 2013, 11:39 AM BSTAn office I go to 2/3 times a week has two women there.
I have to sign into the company there and I always pay them both compliments.
But it's done jokingly and they always laugh. I try to think of a new line each time I go.They will say something like hello Stephen, are you OK. and then my new line of the day comes in - something like I'm all the better for seeing your two beautiful faces.
But once, I had something on my mind and forgot to compliment them and it wasn't until I was leaving the office that I realised there was a sort of atmosphere. I stopped and said sorry - and then gave them a new line on how nice they looked and how it had enriched my life by seeing them.
They laughed and the status quo was resumed. Phew.
See? Men and women were never meant to be together - we should stick with our own kind.
Actually, I better rephrase that...
Quote: L.E. @ July 26 2013, 11:42 AM BSTYeah, don't say "You look nice" with a bitchy resting face.
Quote: dannyjb1 @ July 26 2013, 11:09 AM BSTWhat do the beautiful people of BCG think?
I understand the urge to give a compliment like that but unless you know or interact with that person regularly. Do you really need to say anything at all?
If you were to say "You look nice today" wouldn't that imply they looked shit other days or maybe you had been checking them out for a few days, creeper style and today you decided to tell them?
For future reference Danny, just slap her on the arse and wolf-whistle. She WILL respect you.
Quote: Stephen Goodlad @ July 26 2013, 10:40 AM BSTNothing to do with writing but work.
I just got a contract from a company in Mauritius to write software
For a failed screen on one of their machines.
They are sending me a new screen overseas and I shall program it for the next 2 weeks.
I told them the price and it was many thousands and they paid me fully withing 10 minutes.Just had a good rub of my hands in excitement. I will get that new car now.
Well done..
Are you sure 2 weeks is enuff?